The following information and resources are for those seeking help as survivors of abortion attempts. If you are currently pregnant and considering an abortion, you can find pregnancy help here:
If you are in crisis (whether as a survivor or as a woman or man who has been impacted by abortion) and need to talk to someone right now, please call the 24 hour, national helpline for abortion recovery, toll-free, at 1-866-482-5433.
Although the helpline isn’t specifically for abortion survivors, they know the impact that abortion has on everyone—physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually, and can help you with what you’re going through right now and connect you with assistance in your community. Someone is there to listen to you at every hour of every day.
You are not alone! Although the statistics are hard to get to when it comes to the exact numbers of abortion survivors, we know through our work that there are hundreds, if not likely thousands upon thousands of abortion survivors. We know it’s often very difficult to have experienced what you have, and it’s equally difficult to share your story with others or trust them to help you in your healing.
Please know that no matter what you’ve gone through, others care about you, there is hope and healing from your experiences is possible.
Although there are many pieces to consider when you look at healing resources and supports, there are a couple of major points we want to make.
You have the right to confidentiality. Your confidentiality and privacy should be strictly respected at all times, unless you are threatening harm to yourself or others. No one should share the details of your story–even if no one would recognize that it is about you–without your explicit permission. That goes for us, too, at ASN. We only share stories, even without names, with permission.
There should be no pressure to “tell your story.” Yes, there are a handful of survivors that share their story publicly, but most survivors will not. This is a very personal decision to make, whether you share just a small snippet of your story online or share your story and face with the world at large. We understand that there are many factors that you will need to consider about sharing your experience.
It’s important to note that if you’re interested in sharing your story, a good support person or group will encourage you to carefully discern what is truly best for you, and to take plenty of time in making this decision, not rush you to do it or demand or manipulate you into doing so for their benefit. Again, that includes us here at ASN.
Words of Wisdom from a Fellow Survivor:
“At first it was about discovering why I always felt out place, rejected…as if I didn’t belong….through the process I learned my true identity.
I found my way through the devastation of all the lies and secrets, to the truth of who I am and in the process found the strength to truly forgive my parents and myself.”—Melody
ASN links survivors to one another on an individual basis to assist them in breaking down walls of loneliness that often exist and connecting with someone with whom you can relate and even be mentored by. Please use our contact us page to let us know more about you and if you’re interested in a one on one connection with another survivor.
We also have a private online group where survivors can share more about their experiences and experience a sense of community with others who understand what they’ve gone through. Please use our contact us page to let us know more about you and if you’re interested in being added to this group.
There are numerous healing programs for women and men who have experienced abortion. Many of these programs are also well-equipped to be a support to you. Here are a few of those programs:
Local Pregnancy Center Healing Ministries: these are often provided on a one on one counseling basis. Click on that link to be directed to the listing of pregnancy centers that exist and find one local to you. You can then contact them to inquire about their healing ministry.
ASN makes referrals to ministries, counseling agencies, and clergy on an as needed basis by survivors. If you would like our assistance in finding a counselor or pastor in your area who is well equipped to work with survivors, please let us know through our contact us page or email us.
We keep a listing of counselors and clergy who are passionate about and prepared for working with survivors. If you would like to know about the availability of such a resource in your community, or if you’re a provider who would like to be added to this list, please contact us.
Workbooks and Books:
We are currently in the process of crafting our own healing curriculum for survivors that we will be adding to this page and sharing with the current healing programs to utilize. Stay tuned for updates!
There are a couple of books written by/about abortion survivors that you may find helpful:
There are also a number of abortion healing resources for women and others impacted by abortion that anyone may find helpful, including: